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When your relationship with yourself feels unmanageable, it’s hard to build a secure or stable relationship with anyone else.
  • Fear of abandonment or rejection — constantly worried people will leave, betray, or stop loving you.

  • People-pleasing and over-functioning — trying to earn approval, avoid conflict, or stay “needed”.

  • Low self-worth — struggling with not feeling “good enough,” even when you are.

  • Emotional shutdown or overwhelm — finding it hard to regulate your emotions, or feeling too much or nothing at all.

  • Difficulty trusting or depending on others — expecting to be let down or hurt.

  • Poor boundaries — saying yes when you want to say no, or struggling to know what’s okay and what’s not.

  • Dissociation or detachment — checking out, feeling disconnected from your body, or like you’re on autopilot.

  • Unstable or intense relationships — swinging between closeness and distance, craving connection but fearing it too.
Attachment trauma begins in childhood when a caregiver wasn’t emotionally present, consistent, or safe enough to meet your needs. Without that early attunement, you may have learned to suppress your emotions, stay hyper-alert to others’ moods, or disconnect entirely — all as a way to feel safe. Over time, those coping strategies become hardwired. In adulthood, they often show up as nervous system dysregulation, unstable relationships, low self-worth, or difficulty trusting others. Common symptoms can include:

Attachment trauma happens when early experiences overwhelm your ability to process them.

When your nervous system has been shaped by inconsistent, neglectful, or unsafe relationships, it doesn’t just “get over it” because you’re now an adult. Insecure attachment can affect everything — how you love, how you fight, how you trust, and how you see yourself. It can shape how you relate to your partner, your kids, and even your own parents.

You may feel like you’re too much, not enough, or constantly chasing reassurance that never really lands. You might find yourself stuck in chaotic relationships, pushing people away, or repeating patterns you swore you'd never fall back into — including the ones passed down to you.

It’s exhausting, lonely, and can leave you questioning what’s wrong with you.

Isn’t it time you felt better?

When your early relationships shape everything

When your early relationships didn’t feel safe, consistent, or supportive, it can shape how you show up in all the relationships that follow. You might find yourself overreacting, shutting down, clinging too tightly, or feeling like you’re always stuck in the same painful patterns — no matter how much insight you have.

I don’t do surface-level strategies or endless talk with no change. I work with you to get to the root of what’s going on — so you can feel better in yourself and in your relationships.

Here’s what that might look like:

  • Making sense of your attachment style — and how it’s impacting the way you connect, protect, and respond.

  • Exploring attachment wounds and how they’re playing out in your partnership or close relationships.

  • Using targeted inner child work to reconnect with unmet needs and emotional pain you learned to suppress.

  • Practising mindfulness to support regulation, presence, and connection (without bypassing what’s real).

  • Psychoeducation that actually helps — so you understand your patterns and stop blaming yourself.

  • Drawing from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to repair emotional disconnection and build secure bonds.

  • Integrating Internal Family Systems (IFS) to reduce inner conflict and strengthen self-trust.

  • Using somatic tools to regulate your nervous system and create a felt sense of safety in your body.

You don’t have to keep surviving relationships. With the right support, you can learn to feel safe in them — starting with the one you have with yourself.

If you’ve read this far and you’ve had a lightbulb moment, get in touch.

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